Reflections

Touch Base

One of the reasons why I have stayed long in working from home and at home is the need to touch base. In the span of time we progress as adults trying to carve a career or raise kids, we often outgrow asking those so called existential questions anymore. In fact, what is supposed to preoccupy us at this stage is asking questions like, “what have I achieved by now? what more can i do in the next five to ten years of my productive life?”

This does not mean tall orders or pursuing those impossible dreams we have when still at the height of one’s youth. By now, we have unraveled the maze that is handed to each one of us at birth. Your life a puzzle to solve. By now, you are fully aware of your purpose, of where you are going. Through a series of starts, wrong-turns, dead-ends and long walks, we come to understand that both the process and the results of our endeavors are priceless lessons. It makes us who we are today.

Touching base is not simply a trip down memory lane. It is finding the grace to accept those experiences without judgment. The choices we have made are often irreversible. But it does not suppose to get us stuck. Being there, in the moment and consciously untangling what we feel as anathema to who we are, what we believe in eventually sets us free to continue our own journey.

 

 

 

 

Reflections

What’s Worth Writing About in 2014?

I know I’m not the only one mulling over this question. Since it’s the first month of the year, it might be opportune  to list down topics for a year of blogging. PurpleMom is here to stay and hopes to stay for years. As long as there are issues that matter to women and parents, there is always something to write about.

Here are some topics that may be in for 2014:

1. Online Shopping – This is a discovery for skeptical consumers like me. Women like to buy things for their kids and love ones as the family budget allows. Special occasions like Christmas and birthdays demand that we give something. Since I have started writing online, I discovered a number of good websites that offer quality and affordable products that we normally buy from shopping malls using only PayPal. I do not only save time, energy and money from actual travel to the big city; I can also support some good causes like promoting organic, home-made or recycled products and ethical shopping. Some of these sites welcome bloggers to offer a review on their products and services. It is one area to write about.

2. E-Learning – As education gets costlier by the year, doing some online courses seem to be an alternative not only for home-based Moms like me. It is also highly recommended for busy professionals and young people eager to learn new things and build their credentials. There are a number of websites to explore. One of my recent discovery is http://lrngo.com, a site where you can teach, learn or trade skills. You can learn a foreign language for free by offering to teach English or any second language you speak.

3. Parenting issues – Modern living has its complications. For young people, it may be a hit and miss experience. The role of parents is simply to guide and listen. This is true in wherever part of the globe we are located or whatever cultural norms and values we share. Although it’s a lifetime job, being a parent can only be appreciated if we are faced with the realization that we do not know all the answers to our kids’ questions.

4. A Product or Tech-gadget review – The first time I made one and got a positive feedback from the client, my eldest daughter laughed and looked at me like I just became a human being. Who says technology is for the young only?

5. Health and well-being stuff – You don’t get tired reading articles in this niche. This is so true when you are in your 40s and just coming to terms with this fact. They say it’s the time to really live. Yeah sure. With each strand of white hair you discover on your head, you can also count the number of “aha”, “so that’s it”, and “told you so” moments you experienced.  Nothing compares to first-hand ordeals and life-changing situations.

6. Day to Day Issues – I don’t mean to sound cut-off from the rest of humanity but we all do share the same recurrent problems from the most trivial (we tend to ignore them over time) to the most annoying (inflation, unemployment, climate change, etc.). When I started writing this blog, the number one on my list was “the state of the economy” but had second thoughts thinking this is not the SONA of the President or an economist’s review.  Single parents like me will just complain, rant and rave. No offense but this is how things are. You govern, we watch and complain. (Note: We also participate and do our share like paying taxes, voting the good guy to public office, obeying traffic rules, etc. Hey, I also write policy papers in case they get noticed by my Professors.)

7. Knee-jerk Reactions to Events – When the state weather bureau started broadcasting about Typhoon Haiyan’s coming, I hastily opened their website called Project Noah where floods and weather conditions are predicted and tracked. On my Tweeter account, I started to tweet about Yolanda Chronicles assuming it is one of those strong typhoons that we  get yearly. I was barely in my third tweet when the winds started giving me that eerie feeling. Then, the lights went off. Everything went dead including our wireless internet connection at home. The morning after,  neighbors were saying the storm just wiped out the regional capital. We did not know what to believe. We did not realise the extent of the damage of Yolanda (she got the most infamous name in this part of the world) until after three days mostly from foreign websites like BBC and CNN. One of the national dailies also gave periodic accounts on the aftermath of that horrifying event as 2013 was about to end. The knee-jerk responses were coming. The public ire was heigthened from the uncertainty of the times. Prices of fuel and basic commodities skyrocketed. Our city became instant hub of both survivors and relief operations (including media). The fact that we are located along the national highway made us an ideal stopping point.

The power cut extended for more than two weeks. But it never felt like time has regressed and I was transported back into some childhood scenes back at my grandparents village in the 1970s.

Knee-jerk responses are sometimes good if it means awakening the people to act and demand for what is due to them. Sometimes, it just got nasty when people do not know anymore what is true and what is pure rumor. It just became more surreal when people started to panic and stampede to the hills believing on the malicious lie of an impending tsunami about to hit the coastlines. And to think its was technology that spread the lie – SMS, yes.

I think that the best knee-jerk response that the public ever made last year was on the PDAF scam. After all, it’s the people’s money that has been stolen.

Indeed there are so many things to blog about this year. Might as well wait and be responsive and responsible about it.